Marriage as a Sacred Covenant
In Jewish culture, marriage is more than a social contract—it is a sacred covenant deeply rooted in faith, tradition, and community. Weddings reflect centuries of heritage, combining legal, spiritual, and symbolic dimensions. From the signing of the ketubah to standing beneath the chuppah, each element of a Jewish wedding embodies profound meaning.
This guide explores Jewish marriage traditions, their cultural significance, and how they continue to shape Jewish life today.
Historical Foundations of Jewish Marriage
Marriage in Judaism has long been viewed as a mitzvah (commandment), central to fulfilling the divine instruction to “be fruitful and multiply.”
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Biblical origins: Stories of patriarchs and matriarchs—Abraham and Sarah, Isaac and Rebecca, Jacob and Rachel—set examples of faith and family.
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Rabbinic development: Over time, rabbis codified laws, creating a structured framework for betrothal (kiddushin) and marriage (nisuin).
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Cultural continuity: Despite centuries of diaspora, Jewish communities worldwide have preserved core traditions while adapting to local customs.
The Engagement Period: Kiddushin
Before marriage, a couple enters a formal betrothal called kiddushin. Historically, this was a binding stage, often marked by the giving of a ring or token. Today, engagements are celebrated with family gatherings and blessings, though the legal betrothal happens during the wedding ceremony itself.
The Wedding Ceremony: Step by Step
1. The Ketubah (Marriage Contract)
The ketubah is a written contract outlining the groom’s responsibilities, including financial support and respect for the bride. It is read aloud and signed before witnesses, symbolising commitment and protection of the wife’s rights. Many ketubot are beautifully decorated, serving as both legal and artistic treasures.
2. The Chuppah (Wedding Canopy)
The couple marries beneath a chuppah, a canopy open on all sides. It symbolises the new home they will build together, rooted in openness, hospitality, and faith. Families often personalise the canopy with fabrics or heirlooms.
3. The Ring Exchange
The groom traditionally places a plain gold band on the bride’s finger, declaring, “Behold, you are consecrated to me according to the laws of Moses and Israel.” In modern practice, many brides also give rings, reflecting equality.
4. The Seven Blessings (Sheva Brachot)
Seven blessings are recited over wine, celebrating love, joy, companionship, and divine creation. Family members and friends may be invited to read them, connecting community to the couple’s union.
5. Breaking the Glass
At the ceremony’s conclusion, the groom (sometimes both partners) breaks a glass underfoot. This act has layered meanings:
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Remembrance of the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem.
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A reminder that even in joy, the world still needs healing.
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A symbol of the fragility of human relationships, requiring care and commitment.
Guests respond with the joyous shout: Mazel Tov! (“Good fortune!”).
Post-Wedding Celebrations
Seudat Mitzvah (Wedding Feast)
The reception is more than a party—it is a seudat mitzvah, a sacred festive meal. Traditional music, lively dancing (including the famous hora, where the couple is lifted on chairs), and abundant food reflect joy and community support.
Sheva Brachot Week
For seven days after the wedding, newlyweds may host meals where the seven blessings are recited again. This extends the joy and keeps family and friends involved in the couple’s new chapter.
Each tradition is layered with meaning:
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Unity of souls: Marriage is viewed as reuniting two halves of one soul.
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Community support: Weddings involve family and friends, emphasising marriage as part of wider Jewish life.
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Balance of joy and memory: Customs like breaking the glass highlight the Jewish way of embracing life’s fullness—joy alongside historical consciousness.
Regional Variations in Jewish Weddings
Throughout history, Jewish communities have adapted wedding customs to their surroundings:
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Ashkenazi traditions: European Jews often emphasised klezmer music, yiddish songs, and elaborate feasts.
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Sephardi traditions: Jews from Spain, North Africa, and the Middle East highlight henna ceremonies and distinctive melodies.
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Modern practices: Egalitarian ceremonies, same-sex marriages, and personal adaptations now coexist with traditional frameworks.
Jewish Marriage in Modern Context
Today, Jewish weddings vary widely:
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Orthodox communities uphold strict adherence to halachic law.
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Reform and Liberal movements incorporate flexibility and gender equality.
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Secular Jews often keep symbolic customs like the chuppah or breaking the glass as cultural heritage.
Despite diversity, the core remains the same: marriage as a covenant of love, responsibility, and sacred partnership.
Conclusion: Tradition Alive in Every Generation
Jewish marriage reflects the enduring resilience and richness of Jewish culture. From biblical times to the present, weddings blend solemn commitments with joyous celebration.
At Unico Hotels, we honour these traditions by offering hospitality that respects Jewish customs, including kosher catering, Shabbat-friendly facilities, and the cultural needs of Jewish weddings. Whether planning a wedding or celebrating an anniversary, our spaces embrace Jewish heritage with dignity and care.